There is an old piece of advice, maybe you’ve heard it. It goes something like “You don’t really know who a person is, until you know who they are when they’re mad.”

For those not familiar, this is often advice given to young couples before they consider marriage.

For us trekkers, the advice is : Make sure you go trekking together, before you consider marrying each other!

Here’s why….

In an artificial setting like a coffee shop, restaurant or a park, you only talk.

Yet, we spend most of our married life doing things – making breakfast, going to office, sending the kids to school. And in doing these ordinary tasks we display our love, respect and consideration towards one another. It cements our bond and our marriage becomes stronger.

But those are things you cannot get a sense of while sipping overpriced coffee.

However, on a 5-6 day trek, the mask of the city wears off quickly and the real person surfaces.

There is no better place to evaluate a partner than on a trek.

Here’s why:

1. Trekking is not a “walk in the park.” It’s hard work… and the best way to tell if you have a complaining partner. If so, you can be sure married life with them will be similar.

2. Like a trek, life is a series of cooperation – at home and work. If your partner doesn’t exhibit a sense of cooperation on a 5-6 day trek… you can guess what the next 50 years may be like.

3. There are any number of things that can go wrong on a trek. And in life. Trekking is the perfect way to see if your partner deals with bad situations in a cool and composed manner. A dose of humour is a bonus.

4. Trekking gives you a true sense of how your partner gets along with others. Beware of a partner who is glued to your side on a trek, and doesn’t socialise with others.

5. A considerate partner is far more important in life than a loving partner. Trekking gives constant opportunity to evaluate this. Does your partner show consideration to the world? Do they pick up fallen chocolate wrappers? Have a kind word and gesture towards others?

6. Trekking will quickly show you whether your partner is a self sufficient human being… Or someone who gives orders (however sweetly), for others to get things for them.

(As we have heard, “A partner who orders is a menace for the future.”)

Over the course of a 5 day trek, you can learn a lifetime of information about someone (for some people, this is found out just in travel to basecamp!).

For that matter, it can be a great way to meet a well-suited partner as well!

Lest you marry the wrong one.

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The famous actor Arnold Schwarzenegger posted a picture of him sleeping in the street under his famous bronze statue in Columbus, Ohio on 15Jan16, and wrote sadly “How times have changed”.

The reason he wrote the sentence was not only because he was old, but because when the governor of California opened the hotel with the statue in front of him during Annual Arnold Fitness Festival in 2014. The hotel officials told Arnold: "At any time you can come and have a room reserved in your name".

When Arnold left governorship and went to the hotel, the administration refused to give him a room arguing that the hotel was fully booked.

He brought a cover and slept under the statue and asked people to imagine it.

He wanted to convey a message that when he was in a position they were praising him, and when he lost this position they forgot and did not fullfill their promise to him.

Yes, times have changed. Do not trust your position or your owner or your power or your intelligence.

All of this will not last after death.

Saving Titanic

Tue31May16

There were three ships which were nearby when the Titanic sunk.

One of them was known as the Sampson. It was 7 miles away from the Titanic and they saw the white flares signalling danger, but because the crew had been hunting seals illegally and didn’t want to be caught, they turned and went the opposite direction away from the Titanic. This ship represents us and people like us if we are so busy looking inward at our own sin and lives that we can’t recognize when someone else is in need.

The next ship was the Californian. This ship was only 14 miles away from the Titanic, but they were surrounded by ice fields and the captain looked out and saw the white flares, but because the conditions weren’t favourable and it was dark, he decided to go back to bed and wait until morning. The crew tried to convince themselves that nothing was happening. This ship represents those of us who say I can’t do anything now. The conditions aren’t right for it and so we wait until conditions are perfect before going out.

The last ship was the Carpathia. This ship was actually headed in a southern direction 58 miles away from the Titanic when they heard the distress cries over the radio. The captain of this ship knelt down, prayed to God for direction and then turned the ship around and went full steam ahead through the ice fields. This was the ship that saved the 705 survivors of the Titanic.

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🎀 ANALOGY –

Obstacles and reasons to avoid responsibility shall always be there, but those who accept it always find a place in the hearts to be remembered for the world of good they do.

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