So you love your fiance, but is he the right person to marry? Well, Father Pat Connor, missionary, marital expert and the first priest ever to be quoted by Glamour magazine, sure knows the answer.

The Australian-born Catholic priest, now based in New Jersey, has condensed his wisdom from 40-odd years of counselling engaged couples into one manual of advice-Whom Not to Marry.

He has conducted premarital counselling and presided over more than 200 weddings.

He also lectures high school girls on the pitfalls of marrying the wrong guy.

And he likes to catch women young, because once they have fallen in love they will be less likely to absorb his sensible and often unromantic advice.

He believes there are no soulmates, only lovers to whom we commit.

Connor’s central thesis is that you can be deeply in love with someone to whom you can’t be successfully married.

He advises a year-long engagement to examine fully the values and character of your future spouse.

And Connor’s ‘whom not to marry’ list is as follows:

1. Mummy’s boys

2. Men who are bad with money

3. Men with no friends

4. Men who put you down in public

5. Men who are rude to waitering staff

6. Men unable to laugh at themselves

7. Men unwilling to share authority

8. Men who never make demands countering yours

Originally at http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/List-of-men-you-shouldnt-marry/articleshow/5880027.cms

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Friendly or outgoing people are more attractive, a new study suggests.

In the study, Gettysburg College psychology professor Brian Meier and his research team found that people who were high in the personality traits of agreeableness or extraversion were rated by strangers as being more attractive.

Meier’s team assessed the personality of 217 men and women.

The photos of these men and women were shown to unacquainted strangers who rated their physical attractiveness.

They found that the men and women who had higher levels of agreeableness or extraversion were also rated as more physically attractive even though raters did not know or interact with the individuals.

Meier said: “The results suggest that there is some truth to the ‘beautiful is good’ stereotype or the ‘halo effect’. People have a tendency to think that attractive people also possess ‘attractive” qualities – such as being friendly, outgoing, and smart.”

He added: “Interestingly, it appears that grooming is a key mechanism. Friendly or outgoing people were also better groomed in the photographs, which made them appear more attractive to others.

Because the photographs were taken unexpectedly, friendly or outgoing individuals seem to be better groomed on a daily basis, which likely helps them receive the social interaction they desire.”

He concluded: “Grooming is a strong predictor of attractiveness that can be easily controlled by the individual unlike more physical characteristics such as weight or skin blemishes. Thus, sociable people seem to already know that a neat appearance goes a long way in drawing others’ attention.”

The paper titled ‘Are sociable people more beautiful?,’ has been published in the Journal of Research in Personality.

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